Waylon says loving language always wins!
Words can greatly impact how a pet adapts to your home. When Waylon came home I could tell there was some confusion. Waylon wasn’t always his name so it took him a while to get used to. He responded to clear commands like ‘no’ or ‘down’ or ‘sit’ but wishy washy phrases seemed to be challenging. When we strengthened our verbal and non verbal communication our relationship became stronger.
Similarly, language is a powerful tool that can impact a child's experience in foster care. The way children are addressed and spoken to has a profound effect on their self esteem, sense of identity, and overall well being.
It is important to use positive, respectful, and supportive language. Instead of saying ‘foster children’ change your words to ‘children experiencing foster care’ or ‘children in the foster care system’. The foster care system does not define the child.
It’s interesting; we refer to animals ‘rescue pups’ or ‘shelter cats’ and it almost creates a stronger sense of endearment but the same phrasing can have the opposite affect when describing a child.
Language can shape a child’s perception of their situation in foster care. Words that have negative connotations can instill a sense of shame or embarrassment whereas neutral or positive phrases can help children feel confident and empowered.
Here are some examples of how you can positively address a child in the foster care system:
Use their name! This shows that you acknowledge and accept their identity. It is a simple gesture that goes a long way.
Show interest in their habits, hobbies, and life experiences! Listen actively, intently, and empathetically just as you would listen to a child who is not in the foster care system. This shows that you respect their opinions and value their perspectives.
Give praise! Offer feedback for achievements and efforts no matter how big or small. The confidence boost will be infectious.
Avoid labels… no one likes them! Kids certainly don’t need the pressure of being ‘the smart one’, ‘the funny one’, ‘the difficult one’… the list goes on.
Be honest! There’s no need to sugar coat the truth. Leveling with any human is empowering for all of us.
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